“Dance when you’re broken open. Dance if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free.” Rumi
Does your dance of life include the dirges as well as the waltzes? Can you find some peace or joy in the really challenging parts of life? Are you able to let go when it’s time to let go?
It has been a tough few days. My dear friend Sandy passed on this week although I hoped somehow she would survive cancer. Whenever I think of Sandy, I think of her beautiful photography and her eternal dance with nature. She invited me to join her one day to take pictures and I learned so much. She had a magical eye and each picture she took showed me some aspect of the subject that I would have overlooked without seeing it through her eyes.
Challenges May Often Change Us For The Better
Sandy was such an inspiration to me as I sometimes took her to chemotherapy. During our rides, we began to talk deeper in ways we never had before. She shared more of her life, and she opened like a blooming red rose. I won’t try to describe the change that took place—I’ll let her speak for herself, so please take a moment to listen to this video, and meet my dear friend.
When I heard a week ago that she would make her transition soon, I began to really feel the loss. I couldn’t bear the thought that we would never dance together again as artists as we had when she created a slide show to match the poetry I read. Our exciting creative collaboration was really the center of our friendship, and it had been a long time since I had created work with another person.
Soon after hearing the news, I walked into my bedroom where one of her photos hung on the wall, a picture of a bridge over part of a stream with dogwood framing the scene. And there she was standing on the bridge waving good-bye to me smiling, and every time in the last week that I have passed that picture, her image was there in my mind’s eye. I felt such peace knowing she was ready.
We Can Always Choose How We Respond To Life
Sandy reminds me that the dance of life is so varied and we can’t always make it be what we want it to be. I am starting a new life with the most loving partner I could ever imagine; Sandy has passed from this life. It doesn’t seem fair. Life—it just is. Someday I’ll be crossing that bridge too—we all will. And it will be my final dance, but in the meantime I’m going to dance to all of life and feel each moment completely.
Dancing to life is about engaging with whatever is happening and feeling it fully. We can kick up our heels joyfully or we can drag our feet remorsefully. We can jump start new projects or we can slowly waltz around them. It’s okay if the dancing hurts sometimes because life isn’t always good to us, but if we learn to cultivate joy, it can lift the quality of life immensely.
We Can Dance With Our Bodies And Minds
There’s no better way to find joy than to dance with our bodies or our minds. When I write I dance with words. Others make preparing food a dance. This week, the Olympic skaters will be dancing on ice. When we hike in the forest, we dance among the trees. A good dinner and conversation with friends is like a dance. When we sleep, we may dance with our dreams.
When I feel sad about Sandy, I remember that she’s now with Oneness and she is well—dancing with the stars, I suspect, and of course taking their pictures.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
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