“Problems can become opportunities when the right people come together.” Robert Redford
Do you feel at ease working cooperatively with others? Are you able to give up a little of your control in order share leadership? What if all nations worked together for the good of all?
I belong to a spiritual group and we’have been puzzled lately about how to handle a situation. Our team leader is stepping down, and others who would make good leaders are too committed to take on more responsibilities. Finally, one long-time member agreed to be the leader with the understanding that he needed “back-up.” Three of us offered. Out of this situation, we created an agreement that all four of us would work together as a team of leaders. Since we are all devoted to the success of the group, this was an excellent solution.
Learning to Love Compromise
I’ve often been in situations where one person wanted to dominate, and they felt diminished by having to cooperate or compromise. Having to share our power requires a calm ego, an open-mindedness, and an acceptance that we may not know it all. In the news this week, Barbara Bush said, “I hate that people think compromise is a dirty word. It’s not a dirty word.” I agree with her. Compromise is one way of cooperating. It requires looking at the options or differences and identifying the most important areas and how they can be implemented for the good of all.
Valuing Cooperative Skills
As a teacher in high school teaching English, I often used small group discussions or group projects to let students be creative and interactive with the literature. However, I think that what they learned about mutual respect and cooperation was far more important than what they learned about the literature. They learned to listen to each other, express a difference of opinion respectfully, and work together in order to create an excellent project that was a result of all their ideas and that fit the assignment requirements and expressed their point of view.
Releasing Resistance to Create a Cooperative Spirit
Don’t we all need those skills? Don’t the leaders of all nations need those skills? I realize it isn’t always easy to be cooperative when we feel things aren’t going in a direction we like. Unless the decisions being made are destructive or unhealthy, it is always a good idea to ask, “Why am I resistant to this idea?” Ego always has a reason for resisting. At that moment, if we are willing to look at our own patterns, we may discover our resistance is very personal.
Maybe this situation mirrors a situation we experienced in childhood or with a spouse or friend. By having the courage to honestly examine our thoughts and acknowledge the issue behind the resistance, we can separate our personal issues from the current discussion and release the resistance. This awakening frees us to act with a more cooperative spirit.
When have you had to put aside your preferences in order to solve a problem through compromise?
© 2012 Georganne Spruce
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Actually, not sure about being called “a turkey”?
Just a little humor there, Roger, but actually I have an excellent cooperative relationship with the turkeys in my yard. And I need spring to get here quickly so I can shoot some more appropriate pictures – perhaps swans this time.
Well said Georganne.
It assures me that I did make the right decision. Furthermore, I woke up today, not stressing over “what have I done” but calm in the assurance that with the backing of such fine friends, all shall be well.
I thought you might write about this, Georganne. It definitely was a wonderful example of cooperation and you expressed it so beautifully.
Thanks, Debra. Namaste