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AWAKENING TO NEW LIFE

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.  How do you know this is the experience you need?  Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”  Eckhart Tolle

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Is the urge to grow part of your life?  Are you willing to encounter what is unpleasant in order to make changes that will improve life?  How does positive thinking enhance your life?

Finally, spring is here with a few warmer days, blooming flowers and heavy pollen.  My front stairs and deck have been covered with the yellow pollen of the oak trees in my yard.  Every few days, a new flower blooms and adds color to the yard.  Because I’m not a very good gardener and I’ve left the yard as it was when I moved into the house, I often forget exactly what is there. As a result, spring becomes a delightful series of surprises.

Spring Awakens New Life

Spring is the constant unfolding of new life.  It’s dynamic and color drags us out of the winter doldrums and reminds us of all that has been lying fallow beneath the snow.  The reality is that although nature is tied to this cycle we are not.  We can awaken to new life at any moment, any day.  When we are open to new ideas and experiences, we create a spring with our lives and new things blossom.

What do we feel in spring?  New energy, excitement, freedom, and hope.  Life that has been restricted indoors moves outdoors where there is more space, more stimulation, and more possibilities.

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Spring of Life, 2006 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Let Go of the Negative and Welcome the Positive

So how can we create these positive and uplifting feelings in our own lives?  We can let go of those things that no longer serve us:  resentment, fear, lack of worth, and attachment to the past or attitudes that keep us from moving forward.

I often write about letting go of fear, but what do we do once we have released it?  Releasing fear creates a space where all things are possible.  We ask for guidance and it will come to us if we are listening carefully to our inner selves.  Of course, sometimes, what we need manifests in the physical world right in front of us.  Are we willing to open ourselves enough to experience the unfamiliar?

To do that, we have to either take a positive view assuming that it will be an improvement in our lives or at least a neutral attitude that allows us to explore the possibility.  There are no guarantees that everything that comes our way will be good, but if we choose to live with a positive attitude, that there may be some good in whatever shows up, we are more likely to experience good.

Find What Is Good in Each Experience

Living with the attitude that life is basically good is rather like experiencing spring or summer year round.  We can live like this when we are willing to focus on what is positive in each experience we have.  Any change we make requires an adjustment and this may seem uncomfortable, but if we aren’t willing to experience some discomfort, we may never move ahead.

For example, when we begin a new relationship, there may be conflicts.  We may feel the other person wants too much of our time or doesn’t want to see us often enough.  Our partner may reflect qualities of the last partner with whom we had a failed relationship, or we may project qualities of that person or a parent onto the new partner.  We may not like the same movies or food.  But we have a choice every time the conflict arises.  We can choose to assume for the moment that this is an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and the other person, and if we can thoughtfully engage in a conversation and try to understand why the issue is a problem, we may be able to create a positive and meaningful relationship.

Let the Light Inside Grow

In the spring, the light and longer days are inspiring as well as the new growth of nature.  The sunlight gives us the Vitamin D we need to feel good, and it makes it possible for us to enjoy more time out of doors gardening, hiking, or playing.  So, it is also worthwhile for us to look for the light inside us.  What are our positive qualities?  When new possibilities appear, do we think we are worthy of a better life, job, or relationship?  Is the light within us a match to this new opportunity?

Loving Ourselves Brings Spiritual Growth

We can choose this moment to nurture and love who we are, to expand the light within and to allow the best of us to blossom.  If we are to grow, it is so important that we are willing to try new things and take risks.  When these things turn out well, we feel better about ourselves, but it is critical that when we take the risk and it doesn’t turn out well, that we applaud ourselves for having the courage to try.  That is a positive thing too.  Applauding ourselves increases the light.

As Tolle points out, each experience we have is an experience we need to have to grow.  We need to value each one, even the unpleasant ones, for this life is our spring.  We are here to learn and grow and expand our energy, and move into the light.  How do you bring the light into your life?  Please comment.

© 2013 Georganne Spruce                                                                      ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO RELATIONSHIPS: EMPATHY, Part 1

“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.” Theodore Roosevelt

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Intimate relationship (Photo credit: Masashi Mochida)

How do you feel when you are able to empathize with one you love?  Does having someone empathize with you draw you closer?  How important is empathy in your life?  Is it a part of love?

It’s spring again and the days grow longer and the light becomes more intense.  On winter’s cold days, I enjoyed curling up under a blanket to read, writing in my journal, or watching a few televisions programs.  But with the Spring Equinox, something shifts, and although March can’t decide whether it’s winter or spring, a few flowers are beginning to blossom.

The light pulls at me and I want to be outside.  Something opens in me—my heart feels exposed and touched by the blossoms and the song of new birds returning to the area.  I want to be the light spreading through the forest.

Edith Wharton said, “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or to be the mirror that reflects it.”  One way I can spread light is through my words, and today the word that compels me to speak is empathy because I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on relationships and feel it is the most essential quality in a loving or caring relationship.

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Empathy In Healthy Relationships

We have many kinds of relationships with friends, family, lovers, or co-workers, and the quality of those relationships involves several aspects: empathy, intimacy, integrity, and commitment.  In healthy relationships, all these aspects function in a positive way.  They create a meaningful connection, but the lack of empathy always creates separation.  When a therapist friend of mine stated that the main reason for divorce in this country is lack of empathy, I wasn’t surprised.

Empathy is the deep emotional understanding of another’s feelings or problems.  We may feel what the other person is feeling because we’ve had a similar experience or we may be emotionally sensitive enough that we can imagine how they feel.  It is a deeper understanding than sympathy which is merely an intellectual understanding of what the other person feels.

Parents Must Teach Children Empathy

In any kind of relationship, empathy makes it possible for two people to bond in a caring way.  Empathy comes from a loving and spiritual place within us, and it is a skill we hopefully learn as children from our parents’ behavior.  Parents must teach children to identify what they feel and encourage them to talk about what bothers them and makes them happy or angry.  Otherwise, they may withdraw or develop dysfunctional ways, such as bullying, to express their frustration.

I have had the experience of talking with an adult, expressing my anger about a situation, and had them pull away.  One friend even asked me why I was angry at her when I was talking about a situation that had nothing to do with her and where she wasn’t even present.  I came to understand that when people, like my friend, have been reared to believe it isn’t acceptable to feel negative emotion or to express it, they withdraw when those feelings are expressed by others.  They may have the ability to empathize only when acceptable emotions are expressed.

Lack Of Empathy May Damage Relationships

This withdrawal can be damaging to a love relationship.  I had a similar experience with a man who was unable to see how some of his behaviors were hurtful to me and this caused on-going conflict.  He had learned in childhood that the way to be safe when there was conflict was not to express feelings and to physically withdraw.  This behavior may have protected him as a child, but as an adult, his inability to empathize with my feelings prevented us from having a deeper emotional connection.

Empathy Is Essential To Community

I am fortunate to live in a beautiful mountain community where spiritual awareness is at a high level.  Still, I meet people who are so stuck on being right that their narrow-mindedness separates them from the group or community. They don’t see how disrespectful they are.  The problem isn’t that their thoughts or beliefs are too different from the groups’ ideas, but that they have to prove theirs is the only right idea. They create separation rather than connection. They clearly lack empathy.

Adults Can Learn To Be Empathetic

Expressing empathy says, “I care,” and we all want to know someone cares.  It is deeply hurtful when those we love are not empathetic.  Even when we reach adulthood without this vital skill, it is still possible to learn how to empathize through therapy or just retraining ourselves, not only to listen to others, but to listen to ourselves.  We can go inside and learn to identify what we are really feeling and set our intention to become more aware.  Peter Gerlach says that emotions point to a need that needs filling.  If we don’t know what we’re feeling, we can’t fill our own needs, much less someone else’s.

I think Roosevelt was right, “No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”  Take the time to listen and be empathetic.  This is one of the deepest and most loving ways we may connect with other people, letting them know we understand their pain and frustration.  When we can risk sharing more intimate thoughts and feelings, we may come to know and love each other in profound ways.  Expressing empathy in a relationship may transform it.  We are all One after all.

© 2013 Georganne Spruce                                                           ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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WE ARE ALL ONE

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May your holiday be filled with peace, love, and joy!

AWAKENING TO RELEASE ILLUSIONS

It is“ only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are without any self-deception or illusion that a light will develop out of the events by which the path to success may be recognized.”  I-Ching

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Once again, we are in that time of year when the darkness passes into the light at the Winter Solstice.  It is a deeply spiritual time when many religions focus on significant rituals and holidays.  This year we are also approaching 12-21-12, a time of transition when we and the earth will move into a higher consciousness.

This Is The Beginning, Not the End

This date is significant as the end of the Mayan calendar, but the Mayans do not see it as the end of the world.  In order to understand it’s meaning, I ask that you view the video The Maya Talk About 12-21-12.”  To find it you will have to scroll down the page.

Find Love For All In Our Hearts

In this special time, let us put aside the presents and make time to release the negativity from our lives so that there is room for the light.  Let us reach out with love to all those around us.  Forgive those we feel have hurt us.  It is more important now than it has ever been for us to remember we are all human, no matter how different we may appear.  The only separation that exists is in our minds, and we can choose what we think.

Take this time to look at your life.  What illusions are you harboring?  What are you denying on the surface, but deep within know is true?  What changes do you need to make? We are all points of light if we choose to be and if we choose to be, that light may take us into a world of love and community.  What will you contribute?

Release Our Fears and Express Our Light

More than ever we need to remember this:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.  Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.

And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

 Release your fear, open your heart, express your light in the world to empower all you meet.  We are at the beginning of something wonderful! We can change the world.

Peace, Love, and Joy to you all!

© 2012 Georganne Spruce                                                                           ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO THE DANCE OF LIGHT

“I generate an energy field in and around me of a high vibrational frequency.  No unconsciousness, no negativity, no discord can enter that field and survive, just as darkness cannot survive in the presence of light.”  Eckhart Tolle

As the light outside slips away earlier each day, we are drawn to look more deeply inward.  What can we learn from the many religious celebrations that fill this time of year with joy and remembrance?  What holidays do you celebrate and what do they mean to you?

Celebrating Darkness and Light

Our celebrations have more in common than we may realize, for all celebrate the significance of light and remind us we are all One.  On December 22, we celebrate the Solstice, the longest day of the year, the time of deepest darkness before days begin to shorten, and we begin the journey back to the light and growth of spring.  In the Sumerian myth of Inanna, Inanna gave up her earthly life and journeyed to the underworld to visit her jealous sister. There, she was stripped of her power, died, and was reborn. The story is a reminder that, even when we feel all is lost, our wounds can be healed and burdens lifted.  We will find the light again if we are willing to take the journey.

Celebrating the Love of Christ

On December 25, we celebrate Christmas, the birth of Jesus who has been called, “The light of the world.”  The 25th was also the Roman Winter Solstice based on the Julian calendar.  On this day, the birth of Jesus brought to our consciousness the idea of putting love at the center of our lives. We are to love our neighbors as ourselves and to treat them as we wish to be treated.  We are all given the challenge to replace the negative ideas that separate us with the belief that we are all One in love.  Love is the light that will heal and bring us to an enlightened awareness so that we may live as neighbors, regardless of our differences.

Celebrating Peace and Faith

Beginning on December 21, is Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights in Judaism.  This day commemorates the rededication of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem after the Maccabean Revolt in the Second Century BCE.  Each night for eight days a candle is lit.  As the light grows, faith grows.  Like Christmas, it is a time of gift-giving, feasting, and celebrating with those we love. It is a celebration of light.

Celebrating Our Light Within

In these long dark days, we are more and more drawn to the light.  We enact rituals that bring us together and remind us that light, love and faith uplift and enrich our lives.  As the security of our lives is shaken by changes in the world around us, we must remember that the lights of celebration that comfort us are only reflections of the light within us.  It is that light that we must ignite to renew and grow our lives.  If we allow that light to shine outward, it will inspire and heal others.  That is the light that connects us to the eternal love of the Creator where we may dwell in peace regardless of the season.  In touch with the Creator, we are all blessed.

Have a wonderful holiday! I will post again on January 4, 2012.

©2011 Georganne Spruce
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LIGHTING OUR DARKNESS

“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.”  Carl Jung

 March is so fickle.  Half winter and half spring, she taunts us with indecision, but at least until lately, she surprised us with a few sunny days. This rainy darkness depresses me; I want to bask in spring sunlight.   Instead, like so many moments in life I am left to find a way to “kindle a light” in this darkness.

 To be honest, there is light in my life right now, but the darkness I live with is a heavy cloak that wears me down.  In addition to the cloudy darkness of a rainy day, I struggle with several loses.  A couple and two single friends, all of whom are very dear to me, have moved away.  I miss the fun we had and the frequent conversations that went deeper, filled with caring and insights.  I grieve the loss of closeness that can only be felt face to face.

 How do I “kindle a light in the darkness” of these circumstances?  I remind myself I am grateful for the technology that allows me to communicate with them.  I am grateful for the friends I have who are still here.  I am grateful that the sciatica that caused so much pain is gone and I now know how to prevent it from recurring.  I’m grateful for the wonderful botany class I’m taking where I can interact in a deeper way with Nature and share my love of it with others in the class.  I’m grateful for all the guidance I’ve received in the marketing class I just completed.

 By focusing on gratitude, my energetic vibration rises, and I create a light that reveals the positive elements of my life.  When I write, I experience more peace and joy, especially when it uplifts and inspires others.  When that happens, the light expands to my readers and to the people they touch.  Remembering what is good is the lamp we may always light in the darkness.

How do you light the darkness that appears in your life?                                               © 2011 Georganne Spruce