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AWAKENING TO PATIENCE

Posted on July 21, 2021 | 1 comment

“Sometimes things aren’t clear right away. That’s where you need to be patient and persevere and see where things lead.” Mary Pierce.

Are you a patient person or is patience a challenge for you? How do you stay patient when it is difficult for you? What is the advantage of being patient?

(Thanks to Joanne for today’s topic. Next week will be a topic starting with “Q” so please leave some words that I can use for the next blog topic. Thanks for all your help!)

We are certainly living in a time that requires patience, but even without the pandemic and its restrictions, life always challenges us. Unlike most of life, when we have those moments when we are physically threatened, we have to act quickly without thinking in order to protect ourselves or others. We may not even have time to take a deep breath.

But most of life is not like that. Being patient doesn’t mean waiting forever to see what will happen or tolerating what is harmful or unacceptable. But it does mean taking the time to truly examine a situation in order to make the best decision about the action we should take.

As a young child I had to be patient for years. In a way it really wasn’t an issue because my illnesses kept me in bed or limited my ability to be physically active. By the time I reached junior high school, I was able to do some physical activity. I played tennis, danced, and went swimming at the local pool. It was such a joy!

Needing to Control Makes Us Impatient

Throughout high school and college I was involved with many activities and became more impatient with life when things didn’t move along as I desired. But at times I was forced to be patient. I majored in drama and it’s impossible to perform in a play without considerable preparation. You have to memorize your lines, attend many rehearsals, and learn specifically how to act and move.

Despite learning the value of patience in school, I found being patient in a work environment more challenging. I worked in schools as a teacher and in offices in various positions. Every situation required a period of learning what was acceptable behavior, what was quality work, and how to adjust to difficult co-workers or managers.

Determining When to Be Patience

Too much patience could be interpreted as laziness. Too little patience could create conflicts that would lead to being fired or demoted. But sufficient patience, at times, allowed me to eventually determine that a position or company was clearly not where I should be or that it was best to stay where I was and adjust my behavior to what was required.

When I first started teaching at a Catholic girl’s high school, I loved the disciplined atmosphere because I could really concentrate on the teaching. However, an assistant principal observed me every week. It made me very nervous and I was afraid she came so often because she didn’t think I was teaching very well.

With time, I realized that she was helping me become a better teacher. She was gently teaching me more effective techniques like using group discussions and projects rather than relying on lecturing. Her perseverance as well as mine made me a much more effective teacher in her school, but also give me the tools I would need when I went to work in inner city New Orleans.

Patience Is of Value Personally and At Work

Most of us feel unsettled when we are in a new situation, but being exposed to new situations offers us an opportunity to learn. When I look back on my life, I can see how my lack of patience in social and work situations often hindered me in being successful. There were times when I knew that what I wanted to say would create a problem, but I said it anyway. No one was going to control me.

As I matured, I came to realize that at times I would say or do something that did not work for people who were close to me. I had to take the time to evaluate the situation and perhaps discuss it with others. While it may take time and patience to work out what I want to achieve, but having the patience to consider others is a requirement for healthy relationships.

Besides, exercising the patience to see where things will lead may lead us to unexpected joys.

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AWAKENING TO TRUST LIFE

Posted on January 15, 2014 | 2 comments

“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.” Paulo Coelho

Photo by Mike Baird

How patient are you when things don’t go your way? Are you often disappointed about life or do you find some pleasure in each day?

Lately, it seems that dealing with the mundane in life has become unnecessarily difficult and somewhat bizarre. I spent an hour or more trying to discover why my phone would do nothing but “search” when it had worked fine the day before and the battery was charged. Finally I unplugged the battery to read the numbers on it, thinking that maybe I needed a new one, and when I reconnected it, it worked just fine.

Then there was a problem with the water filter. In order to have filtered water like reverse osmosis, I stack one water filtration dispenser on top of another so that the water from the top dispenser will drip through the second filter. In the last month, the top dispenser has toppled onto the floor twice when a friend of mine walked into the kitchen. At 6 foot 3 inches, he’s a big guy and his steps create a vibration, but he’s been walking into my kitchen frequently for months. Why is this happening now? The second time it happened, the filter shattered.

Lessons May Come From Negative Experiences

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.” Each moment of each day offers us the opportunity to learn. I’ve learned from experience that when a series of events, mundane or serious, occur I need to pay attention. I need to calm down, go with the flow, and take time to trust that the Universe is trying to tell me something.

In addition to going inside for spiritual guidance, I also look at astrology or numerology to see if any messages resonate. My number for this month is a 36/9 and part of the message is that any losses or endings will free me for the new cycle I am about to enter and that any losses I encounter are only those things I do not need.

Not Being Centered Creates Unnecessary Difficulty

When the phone incident occurred, I was already frustrated about a series of troublesome phone calls with my insurance company, and I wasn’t in a positive frame of mind. I was so disappointed that another problem had arisen that I lacked the patience to solve the problem easily by doing the most obvious thing, checking the battery connection. Instead, I assumed it was more complicated.

Remaining Positive Requires Courage

Paolo Coelho reminds us to have courage and not be disappointed when we encounter difficulties. We have to trust that there is value in these life experiences. When the negative experiences are more serious matters, the challenge to have courage is so much greater. My challenges are nothing compared to the challenge my friend who has cancer faces. She is nearing the end but insists on trying not to take drugs to “numb out.” That’s real courage!

Years ago when I had chronic fatigue syndrome, I had to change my life style in order to heal naturally. Having to go to bed early and be very strict about what I ate irritated friends and others close to me. The medical profession had not yet accepted this diagnosis as a real one and many people just thought I was being dramatic about my needs. Losing friends and not being respected made my life more difficult. It took courage for me to remain devoted to what I knew was best for me.

Loss May Lead Us To Something Better

In the case of the cracked filter, I was surprised by what happened, but I wasn’t too upset. Maybe the incident was telling me it was time to install a water filter in my water system. As it turned out, the friend whose vibration caused the filter to crash had an extra filter that can be easily installed in my house.

Photo by Lonny Paul

Learning “not to be disappointed by what we encounter” when we experience mundane disappointments prepares us to face the really difficult moments. Staying calm and going with the flow gives us the patience “to wait for the right moment.” We often see this in a relationship when we need to discuss a touchy subject with a partner or a manager at work. If we take the time to consider when and what to say and release our anger or frustration first, we are more likely to communicate in a way so that the other person will hear us.

To Trust Life, We Must Trust Ourselves

We can trust life when we learn to trust ourselves. We create our lives with our thoughts, emotions, and actions, and the more we learn about managing them in a spiritual and loving way, the more likely we are to create positive experiences. In addition to the patience and courage, Coelho suggests, developing a practice of gratitude helps to shift us away from expecting the worst of a situation we don’t like.

Focusing on Gratitude Is A Positive Practice

Gratitude reminds us of all the good in our lives. Even when it’s hard to see the good, it is important to hunt for it and look for a lesson in each experience. My experience with the phone reminded me that I need to focus on the simplicity of life and assume the solution to a problem is simple unless it truly does become more complex. I am thankful for that reminder.

The experience with the water filter offered a better alternative to my “slippery slope” solution and reminded me that when one thing stops working, it is often because there is something better in the future. When we are grateful for the good we have and truly believe that basically life is good, despite the challenges, we are more likely to find our spiritual path filled with light.