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AWAKENING TO ALL THE LOVE

“Love is a state of Being.  Your love is not outside; it is deep within you.  You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”  Eckhart Tolle

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Malaprop’s Book Signing

When I think of love, I have to remind myself that it comes in many forms.  There’s the romantic version with roses and champagne, kisses and hugs.  There’s the long-lasting, deeper love that allows one to accept and solve the real problems that always arise in life and stay together over time.  There’s the love of friendship and community, of being there for each other for fun and support.  There’s the spiritual love that puts us in touch with something greater than ourselves, greater than anything we can find on the physical plane.  There’s love of mankind that motivates us to become involved with helping those who have less than we do.  There’s also the self-love that allows us to accept ourselves, be the best we can be, and see our mistakes as learning opportunities, not has a reason to condemn ourselves.

A Different Valentine’s Day

Last Friday, I read from my memoir Awakening to the Dance: A Journey to Wholeness at Malaprop’s Bookstore in Asheville.  It felt like Valentine’s Day, for the room was full of friends, acquaintances and strangers.  Some were there just to support my writing efforts; some were there because they were curious about the story; others were there just because we love each other.  Robin, who introduced me, made me sound like a celebrity.  The audience was wonderfully responsive and asked great questions.  It was fun to use my dramatic skills to interpret literature publicly – especially since it was my own creation, and I could see immediately the audience’s response to what I had written.

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Surrounded by Loving Friends

Among my friends were several who have seen me through all kinds of challenges, especially the most difficult one, two years ago, when a love relationship ended.  The pain overwhelmed me, but the constant flow of warm hugs and kind words helped me remember who I really was—a loving and loved woman.  How they put up with my tears and lengthy sad stories I don’t know—actually I do know—they are incredibly loving people.  Even if they thought my book was horrible, which they don’t, they would have come to this event because they know how much it took for me to complete it and put it out into the world.  And they know that I hope that what I’ve learned will help someone else create a happier life.

Real Love Connects With Spirit

When I read Eckhart Tolle’s quote on love, I started searching for some articles and videos to share.  In some of these writings, he points out that our love is often ego-based, but it is real love only when the transcendent becomes a part of it.  He says, “Love becomes a source of suffering when the transcendental is missing.”  Hmm.…So I’ve gathered some articles and videos by him because I think his work is so important for us to understand.

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I’ve also written a lot about love this year and if you missed any of these posts, I’ve listed them for you.  So, instead of doing a new post, I want to ask you to do this:  look over the links below, trust your intuition, and when you feel drawn to one, look at it.  It may be just what you need to hear today.

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Happy Valentine’s Day!  Remember we are all lovers.  We don’t need anyone to complete us although it is always nice to share our love.  Let the love within you fill your day.  You are Love!

© 2013 Georganne Spruce                                                                 ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO OUR WORLD COMMUNITY

“If you want to make peace, don’t talk to your friends.  You talk to your enemies.”  Desmond Tutu

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English: Sunday morning sermon delivered by Greg Barrett, author of The Gospel of Father Joe: Revolutions & Revelations in the Slums of Bangkok. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What have you done this week to create peace in your heart, your family, or your community?

Spiritually Inspiring Talk

Last night I was mesmerized by Greg Barrett, a Pulitzer-nominated author who spoke about his latest book, The Gospel of Rutba: War, Peace, and the Good Samaritan Story in Iraq.  This is the story of how Rutba, a rural desert town in western Iraq, rescued three American peacemakers during the Shock and Awe bombings of 2003.  Not far from the Jordanian border, the peacemakers’ taxi careened off the road and crashed.  One of the occupants was very seriously injured.  A truckload of Iraqis found them and took them to a small clinic in Rutba where the hospital had recently been destroyed by American Bombs.  Despite the destruction and lack of supplies, the Iraqi doctors saved the men’s lives and refused their money.  The Iraqi’s only request was, “Tell the world.”

Seven years later, despite warnings from the American military and the Iraqis that they would probably be killed, the peacemakers returned to help the town heal.  Greg Barrett accompanied them.  They refused to carry weapons and when the Iraqis discovered their intention for returning, they welcomed them as brothers and sisters.

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English: US Marines cook kabobs for Iraqi patrons on the streets of Al Qaim (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Love Heals All

This story is just another example of how, when we choose to act out of love and peace, we can heal the divide between us.  Seeing the love of humanity that Greg Barrett exudes reminds me how important it is for us to have the courage to reach out in whatever way we can to those who are different.  We must learn to see “the enemy” as humanity.

Respect Cultural Differences

In the discussion after the talk, my favorite story was the one Greg told about the dinner the peacemakers and Iraqis had together on the return trip. Knowing that the Iraqis ate their food with their hands, scooping it up with pita bread, the Americans followed that custom out of respect for their hosts.  There was no interpreter and they did not speak each other’s language.  After they began eating, the Americans looked across the table at the Iraqis to make contact.  What they saw were the Iraqis eating their meal with utensils.  Both sides smiled at each other and burst into laughter.

What more can I say?  Well, I can only say I hope you will visit the book website and Greg’s blog—he’s a wonderful writer and a thinking, caring human being.  He’s on a book tour, sharing this story to open minds and connect us all, and he’s trying to raise money to do a documentary on the story.  Maybe you can help.

Hearing Greg’s story has inspired me and I hope it will inspire you too.  Namaste.

© 2013 Georganne Spruce                                                     ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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WE ARE ALL ONE

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May your holiday be filled with peace, love, and joy!

AWAKENING TO RELEASE ILLUSIONS

It is“ only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are without any self-deception or illusion that a light will develop out of the events by which the path to success may be recognized.”  I-Ching

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Once again, we are in that time of year when the darkness passes into the light at the Winter Solstice.  It is a deeply spiritual time when many religions focus on significant rituals and holidays.  This year we are also approaching 12-21-12, a time of transition when we and the earth will move into a higher consciousness.

This Is The Beginning, Not the End

This date is significant as the end of the Mayan calendar, but the Mayans do not see it as the end of the world.  In order to understand it’s meaning, I ask that you view the video The Maya Talk About 12-21-12.”  To find it you will have to scroll down the page.

Find Love For All In Our Hearts

In this special time, let us put aside the presents and make time to release the negativity from our lives so that there is room for the light.  Let us reach out with love to all those around us.  Forgive those we feel have hurt us.  It is more important now than it has ever been for us to remember we are all human, no matter how different we may appear.  The only separation that exists is in our minds, and we can choose what we think.

Take this time to look at your life.  What illusions are you harboring?  What are you denying on the surface, but deep within know is true?  What changes do you need to make? We are all points of light if we choose to be and if we choose to be, that light may take us into a world of love and community.  What will you contribute?

Release Our Fears and Express Our Light

More than ever we need to remember this:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.  Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.

And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

 Release your fear, open your heart, express your light in the world to empower all you meet.  We are at the beginning of something wonderful! We can change the world.

Peace, Love, and Joy to you all!

© 2012 Georganne Spruce                                                                           ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO WHOLENESS

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“I now have a view of spirituality I didn’t have before.  It’s a more integrated spirituality where wholeness is experienced throughout the entirety of our lives.  I now believe that separation of sacred and mundane is hurting our civilization more than helping.”  Dr. Amit Goswami

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Do you feel whole within or do you always feel something is missing?  If you feel whole, how did that come about?  Are you able to express it in your mundane life?

The End Is The Beginning

Today is 12-12-12.  Some identify it as the end of the Mayan calendar and the end of an era.  Some believe it’s the end of the world.  But one truth stands out above all the theories for me.  Every ending is a beginning.  We are leaving behind a life totally centered on rationality and patriarchal values.  This change is a beautiful opportunity to balance and find wholeness within ourselves and our world.

Making the SHIFT

I’ve  pointed out that we need to move from competition to cooperation, but today, I want to look at another split we need to heal and this integrated approach to spirituality is beautifully described in an article “Endless Emergent Possibilities:  Spirituality +Science =SHIFT!” by Kathy Young in the December issue of Science of Mind Magazine.

For many of the years I was a dancer, my spirituality came from the transcendence I experienced while dancing or creating dances.  I felt the same thing when I wrote poetry.  In those moments, I was (and still am) in touch with something greater than myself.  Athletes would call this being in the “zone.”  In those moments we go beyond the physical body to a place where there are no boundaries and no limitations.

Integrating Sacred and Mundane

In the article, Dr. Goswami states, “We see that anytime we have a creative feeling, we are engaging with the sacred.  It makes much more sense to abolish the separation and recognize that the sacred is the creative, and to actively invite that into every activity in everyday life.”  Artists and writers understand this although they may not necessarily label it as sacred.

Valuing the rational above all else has limited our development as human beings.  There are always times when we need to think rationally.  It allows us to organize, focus, and act.  It is a valuable trait, but it is only one aspect of mind power.  To be whole, we need to embrace the rational and emotional, the mundane and the spiritual, and the masculine and the feminine in each of us.  The Tao symbol is the perfect visual image of the balance we need to achieve, for the yin and the yang are intertwined.

Religion has given us an image of the sacred that is controlled by rules and the idea that we must transcend this earthly plane to become spiritual.  But when we find the spiritual wholeness at our centers, it is not limited by man’s definitions of what we should be.  Our mundane and sacred aspects become One and we experience a beautiful freedom that opens the mind.  As the mind opens more, we can accommodate new ideas and new visions.

Education Must Include Creativity

One of the worst things we have done in our society is to remove creative classes from our schools.  Art develops spatial awareness.  Music develops mathematical awareness.  Dance develops spatial and kinesthetic awareness.  Being involved with theater productions develops so many talents, I can’t list them all—all the above and psychological understanding of character, empathy, and how to take different elements and integrate them into a whole.

It’s no surprise that our most amazing business people are the most creative ones.  What if we started encouraging creativity in all areas of life and rewarded those who came up with new ideas?

Living Enlightenment On Earth

This morning I read an article that describes so perfectly what I am saying and what Dr. Goswami is suggesting about integrating the sacred and mundane.  On the Biltmore Estate, they are growing canola plants.  They will be harvested and the oil will be sold to local restaurants.  The left-over leaves will be fed to cattle.  After the restaurants use the oil, it will be recycled into biodiesel fuel to run the machinery on the farm.  Brilliant!

If we encourage and allow people to become the naturally creative beings they are, we can truly save the world because that creativity can take us to that realm where all the answers reside.  We don’t need to transcend this earthly plane to achieve enlightenment.  We just need to learn to live enlightened lives right here, right now and change our world so that we are all whole, healthy, and respect all life.  Bringing the sacred and the mundane together can heal all our lives.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce                                                             ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO UNUSUAL DELIGHTS

“If man is to survive, he will have learned to take delight in the essential differences between men and cultures. He will learn that differences in ideas and attitudes are a delight, a part of life’s exciting variety, not something to fear.”  Gene Roddenberry

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A village pushing our truck out of a sand dune in Senegal

Are you generally open to new experiences or do you avoid people and situations that are different from what you are comfortable with?  How do you react to people with a different point of view?

The Delight of A Sacred Toast

When I traveled to Africa on a Fulbright-Hays Travel Abroad Grant in 1994 with 12 other teachers from Louisiana, one of the events that stood out in my mind was drinking a toast with palm wine.  Because it spoils easily, it is rarely exported, but it was a drink that frequently appeared in the African novels we read in a Teaching the African Novel course we had taken the year before. It seemed exotic and rare, and I was very excited to know how it actually tasted. The experience was quite special because we drank it as a good-bye toast as we left a sacred space where we had witnessed a sacred ceremony performed by a water goddess.  It was a toast to the connection and friendship we had experienced that day with the Africans.

The wine tasted like fermented pineapple juice and I never tasted it again, not even at the West African restaurant I frequented in New Orleans where the fried plantains were perfect and the greens hot and spicy compared to the mild ham and greens of my southern childhood. But the wine was merely a symbol for the extraordinary experience of living in a different culture for five weeks.  And yet it wasn’t so different, for much of the New Orleans food had its roots in West African, just as other New Orleans traditions were translations of West African ritual.  The whole experience made the world seem smaller and more connected for me.

Appreciating Nature’s Surprises

When I lived in the middle of Nebraska among the flatlands where trees were scarce, I remembered all the stories I had read about those who settled the west. Actually, living there amid the blizzards of winter and the high winds taught me to appreciate the stoic nature of those who ventured into the unknown.  Seeing the Sandhill Cranes landing by the hundreds on their yearly migration reminded me that nature presents us with unusual delights even where its beauty is usually so subtle we may easily overlook it.

The Beauty of Humility

There was nothing subtle about the beauty I saw in New Mexico where color and art enliven the beige expanses of desert.  I have always been drawn to the Native American culture’s connection with nature, but it was an act of humility that touched me most deeply.  When a Native American child is spoken to by an adult, they gaze downward and do not make eye contact.  After dealing with many “in your face” teenagers over the years, I was deeply touched by this expression of respect and humility.  I was most grateful for this unusual delight.

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Dancing in New Mexico

New Experiences Teach Us Spiritual Lessons

When we avoid anything that is unfamiliar, we miss many of life’s delights.  Each point of view that we encounter is an opportunity to learn about another and to find a place where our beliefs and experiences connect.  We will change our world one person and one encounter at a time.  The time of separation is ending, and to resist it only creates difficulties.  Our greatest lesson is to be who we truly are and to accept others as they truly are.

I’ve learned that when I really resist something, it’s usually a sign I really need to look at it more closely.  There’s a lesson hidden in the issue or in the person I avoid.  Recently, I experimented  by deliberately sitting next to a person who usually irritates me.  My intention was to be at peace no matter what the other person said or did.  Several times I had to remind myself of that intention, but I was able to release my attachment to resistance, and as a result, my experience was pleasant.

Choose Peace Rather Than Judgment

When we cling so desperately to our religious or political dogma that we are unable to see any value in other points of view, we usually do that out of insecurity.  We are afraid of what is different, but the irony is that our only real security in this world is to understand each other and respect different points of view.  This doesn’t mean we have to choose another’s lifestyle as our own; it simply means we respect their right to make different choices, and when our lives intersect, we choose peace rather than judgment.

What is something different that you have learned to respect in another person?  Please comment.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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AWAKENING TO OUR CHOICES

“If we really want to be full and generous in spirit, we have no choice but to trust at some level.” Rita Dove

When you make a choice, do you think about the consequences?  Do you think about how your choices will impact those around you?  What do you expect our country’s leaders to base their choices on?

The Balance of Power Has Shifted

Yesterday was a game-changing day for the United States.  Barack Obama was re-elected as president, but who elected him is as significant as the victory itself.  Something is shifting in this country.  Ninety-three percent of African-American voters voted for him.  Seventy-one percent of Hispanic voters voted for him, and fifty-five percent of women voted for Obama.

These groups of people, who during my lifetime have struggled for equality in the system, are finally stepping into their own power.  Now the numbers are great enough to influence change in this country, and I think that’s a good thing.  Their choices count in a way they never have before.

We are fortunate to live in a country where we have a system that allows us to choose the people who run the country.  The choices we make on Election Day are significant, but the choices we make each day of our lives can also bring about huge changes.  The diversity in this country will not go away.  We have only one choice—learn to live with people who are different from us.

We Must Choose To Trust One Another

To be the spiritual beings we truly are, we must be willing to trust.  To do that, we have to give up the need to be “right” all the time.  Our need to be “right” keeps us attached to issues that need to be released.  In Rasha’s Oneness, Oneness says “When you are able to let go of the need for ego validation on the issues that help define the history of this lifetime, you have taken the tentative first steps toward liberation from those patterns.”  This is how we become unstuck.

Fear Beneath the Need To Be Right

Have you ever made a decision to prove you were right only to have it blow up in your face?  When we let our egos run our lives, we often miss making the wisest choices.  When we feel the urge to prove we are right, we need to look for the fear beneath that need and deal with that first.  Releasing the fear frees us to act from a deeper place and calms the ego.

Likewise, our leaders need to stop worrying about whether the vote on an issue is won by the Republicans or the Democrats.  This isn’t a football game.  The only thing that matters is did they do what is best for the majority of the people?  Will this decision help people to live better lives?  Our leaders must choose to be trustworthy so that they can trust each other and the people can trust them.  Too often, good ideas have been dropped because one side couldn’t stand to see the other “win” and blocked the law’s passage.

Act For the Highest Good Of All

The question then is not “Am I right?  Did I win?”  The only question we ever need to ask when making a decision is “Is this for the highest good of all?”  If it isn’t, the decision isn’t the right one.  Our decisions are energy flowing into the cosmic ocean to support its life or to pollute it.  When we act out of love and generosity, our spiritual energy feeds the whole.  We should expect no less from our leaders.

As Oneness says, “All the rules are changing now.  Your world, as you have been schooled to understand it, has already ceased to be.  The cellular structure of every life form on your planet has been altered.  The resonant vibration of every living thing has been augmented.  And the attunement of all consciousness to heightened levels has been achieved.  As a race, the human population has opened itself to receive the gift of Grace.  And even though precious few are aware of that shift, all are manifesting the result, in one form or another.” (Page 104)  One result of this shift is that we are no longer in control.  Resistance to the change taking place is pointless.

Those who are creating the positive changes in our society are the ones who are aware and are leading the way for the rest of us.  Because of these changes, we need to make better choices in our own lives and insist that our leaders make better choices that will create a life that will uplift and enrich us all.  We all deserve a life that is “full and generous in spirit.”

© 2012 Georganne Spruce                                                                  ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO LISTEN

“When we talk about understanding, surely it takes place only when the mind listens completely—the mind being your heart, your nerves, your ears—when you give your whole attention to it.”   Jiddu Krishnamurti

In conversations, do you wait with irritation when a person talks too long or are you able to sit, quiet within, and really listen?  Which do you value more, listening or speaking?

Speaker or Listener?

I’ve always been a big talker.  I love discussions.  But recently, something has shifted in a deep way.  In fact, it shifted gradually over the years, but I’m just now really understanding the value of this change.  There was a time when, during a conversation, my attention was mainly on getting my chance to speak as if speaking my thoughts out loud gave validity to them that just thinking did not have.  I suspect I even fidgeted a lot waiting for my turn.  I can even remember composing what I was going to say rather than listening and reflecting on the words of the person speaking.

Perhaps part of this was my need as a teenager and young adult to overcome my childhood shyness and conditioning that a woman was supposed to defer to others.  It made me nervous to speak during a discussion, and when I finally became comfortable with it, my ego probably enjoyed being the speaker too much.  With time, though, and experience as a teacher who had to listen to her students, I came to value listening more. As I progressed on my spiritual journey, attending workshops and reading, I began to listen more to my interior self instead of my ego.

Telling Our Stories Creates Loving Bonds

In the South, where I live and grew up, passing our stories on to the next generation is a way of life.  Perhaps that’s why we have had so many incredible southern writers.  As I child, I often sat at my parents’ or grandparents’ feet listening for hours to their stories.  I captured a sense of these times in my poem “Mysteries.”  Those stories were how I learned about my own heritage and how people lived before me.  The telling and listening created a loving bond between the generations.  I was taught that listening to others was a form of respect.

Ego Cares Only About Itself

When we are unwilling to listen to others, it is often because our ego has another agenda.  We judge the speaker as someone whose words won’t be helpful to us. One time I was facilitating a very large group discussion, and one man, fidgeting with impatience, decided I was allowing a woman to talk too long.  He suddenly announced to the group that there were too many people not getting to talk, took over my role, and called on someone he wanted to hear. Despite his perception, we still had plenty of time left for everyone to speak.  I was shocked by his behavior, but before long I slipped back into my role as facilitator without confronting him.

Listening Enhances Our Spiritual Journey

I’ve recently joined a spiritual discussion group where most of the members are excellent listeners and also are deep thinkers.  We use a process where we each speak a couple of minutes in response to a question, and we do this for two rounds.  Then we may ask each other questions and respond to what another has said.  This orderly process works well because it allows each person an opportunity to speak and be heard and allows for spontaneity.  Each person feels respected.  Because we are only allowed to speak once during the two rounds, it forces us to be listeners for most of time.  It gives us time to really process what we are hearing and reflect on what may be helpful to us.  As a result, I’ve found others ideas illuminating and stimulating new ideas that enhance my spiritual journey.

Listening Expands Us

Dr. Karl Menninger said, “Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force.  The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward.  When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.”  When I read this, I realized how true this is in my life.  The people who are my friends really listen and, in turn, offer their perspectives to whatever I share with them.  Because they are really listening, I feel valued by them, and I value their friendship by listening closely to them when they speak.  We learn and grow and expand together.

As a result of meditation and other spiritual practices, I have now reached a point where I listen more carefully and patiently to others.  When someone goes on too long from my point of view, I try to recenter to continue listening to them.  If I am really not interested in what they are saying, I remind myself that they deserve to be treated respectfully regardless of what they are saying.  My ego may protest this choice, but my heart and spirit know this is the one I need to choose. I go within and try to listen from my heart.

Listening Increases Understanding

By listening, I am often able to understand others who seem quite different from me.  I may not agree with their philosophy of life and how they handle situations, but understanding why they are different helps me to accept them.  Refusing to listen to those who have different views only creates a polarization—the kind that is now destroying our world.  When we allow our egos to control what we hear, we shut out any idea with which we don’t agree, but when we listen from our hearts, we are able to hear humanity speaking and remember that we are all One.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce                        ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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AWAKENING TO THE GUIDES IN OUR LIVES

“Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”    Rumi

Who have been the major guides in your life?  What have you learned from them?

Throughout the last year and a half, as I edited and prepared Awakening to the Dance: A Journey to Wholeness, I became more aware of the many transformations that took place in my life because of the influence of other people.  Some were pleasant experiences; some were not; some were lovely and disappointing. 

I’m not sure I believe the old saying, “Time heals all wounds,” but I do believe time gives us the ability to see those old experiences in a more enlightened way.  As we grow and learn, we hopefully come to a deeper understanding of our lives and the lessons we’ve learned from our life challenges.  At this point in my life, I have a whole basket of thank yous to hand out that I would never have viewed as good things at the time they happened.


Being Thankful For the Chaos

The summer after my divorce many years ago, I studied dance with Erick Hawkins. His gentle classes were just what I needed, and I learned more than one life lesson from him.  I wrote about the first awareness, concerning an injury, in the post “Body and Soul As One.”  The second awareness occurred as a result of a comment.

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Hawkins in El Penitente, 1930s (Photo credit: Wikipedia)Hawkins.  

“That summer, Erick Hawkins was my spiritual teacher. One day, he said that in Zen one said, ‘Thank you’ when things were at their worst. The idea was profound—that we should be thankful for all experiences because we could learn from them and become more aware. Although I learned to have more respect for myself after the injury, I wasn’t yet able to see what positive things I had learned from my divorce. So I thanked Erick Hawkins for opening my heart and showing me how to have compassion and respect for myself as well as for others. I could even say, ‘Thank you for the chaos of my life,’ having faith that someday I would know what good sprang from it.”

Forgiving Ourselves and Others

Now, many years later, I can see how badly matched my ex-husband and I were, and how we were so unprepared, at that stage in our lives, to give each other what we needed in a relationship.  I no longer blame him or me for the hurtful choices we made, but I did learn how a good relationship requires the kind of communication we didn’t have.

Feeling Gratitude For What Is Good

It was many years before I really embraced Hawkins advice, but now part of my daily gratitude practice is being thankful for the difficulties that arise in my life.  I say, “Thank you for this difficulty and the valuable lesson I will learn from this.”  I have learned that nothing is meaningless and trust that the opportunity to learn lessons is everywhere.

The next relationship I was in, I chose a man who was an artist and whose spiritual life was entwined with art like mine.  I wrote about this relationship in the book as well.

“In the quiet of an early Sunday morning, I reread the letter from Neal that had arrived the day before. Embracing me with his words, he said I was very dear to him and that he found pleasure in my mind, smile, laughter, and movement. How lucky I was to have found a fairly liberated man, but a part of me was afraid to surrender and love him completely because losing him would then be unbearable. The spiritual bond that our art created between us was deep, for sometimes he thought he was me—that was the only way he knew to describe it, as if we had developed from the same root. We hurt in similar ways, we grieved in similar ways, and we celebrated in similar ways. When we danced or made love, a sheer, pure pleasure flowed through us. We could appreciate silence, share it, and not feel ill at ease. Even with hundreds of miles between us, I felt his touch.”

The relationship lasted for eight years.  At times we were just friends; at other times, we were lovers considering marriage.  There was joy, laughter, and tears, but despite our powerful connection, we parted.  Although we loved each other, he didn’t really want what I would call a relationship, and I could not live the way he wanted us to live. Despite that, the list of positive things I learned from that relationship is endless, not the least of which was that I could be loved for who I truly was.

Letting Go And Finding A Better Life

These are only two examples of the many guides who have passed through my life and taught me who I am and how to live with more joy and meaning.  When I began to write my memoir I was searching to understand why I was experiencing so many negative things.  Now I can look back and say, “It was time for me to move on and I wasn’t moving,” so the Universe made it impossible for me to stay where I was, and I am so grateful.  Without that push I might not have come to North Carolina, I might not be writing, I might not have the life I love.

What is one of the important lessons you’ve learned from a guide in your life?

I hope you will want to read more of my story and how I used my spirituality to grow and change. Awakening to the Dance: a Journey of Wholeness is now available as a paperback at Create Space and as an ebook on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.  The paperback is also available on Amazon in this country and some European countries.

I will continue to the Wildness Series as I have time to interview some wonderfully wild people I know.

©2012 Georganne Spruce                              ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

AWAKENING TO WILDNESS, ONE WITH NATURE, Part 2

“In wildness is the preservation of the world.”               Thoreau  – thoreau’s Birthday is today

What is your relationship to nature?  Are you a hiker, fisherman, gardener?  What part of you comes alive when you are in touch with nature?

The Soul Is Wild

“The soul is like a wild animal – tough, resilient, savvy, self-sufficient, and yet exceedingly shy.  If we want to see a wild animal, the last thing we should do is to go crashing through the woods, shouting for the creature to come out.  But if we are willing to walk quietly into the woods and sit silently for an hour or two at the base of a tree, the creature we are waiting for may well emerge, and out of the corner of an eye we will catch a glimpse of the precious wildness we seek.”  Parker Palmer

What is it about wildness that touches so many of us deeply?  For my friend Jerry, it is nature’s inability to be domesticated.  Even at four years of age, he was allowed to go into the forest where he created fantasy games, often related to the stories he was reading.  The woods were his playground.  As a young man, he ran a program similar to Outward Bound.  He was a woodsman first and later became a psychologist.

Wildness Is Central To Spirituality

Jerry often quotes William Blake or Thoreau, both writers who embody wildness.  When I asked him how wildness relates to his spirituality, he said, “It is central to it.  I’m part of the natural—part and parcel of the fauna—I’m not outside looking in.  I can’t think of spirituality without wildness.  I’m not sure I could be wild if I lived in the city all the time because that environment is so domesticated.”

The Space With No Name

During my twenties, I was enthralled with the Romanic writers, the transcendentalists like Emerson and Thoreau, who saw a deep, but wild connection between nature and spirituality.  So, when I was first invited to visit Jerry’s “Space With No Name,” I was truly awed by its natural beauty and felt as if I had stepped into another world.

After Jerry and his wife Jane moved to their cabin in the woods, he needed a space to put his parents who had passed away and been buried on someone else’s land.  After one plan fell through, he found a beautiful rhododendron area.  As he wandered through it, he thought, “This is not a graveyard, the old burial ground; this is a wilderness space that will sanctify my parents.”

Gathering wood off the ground, he created a little container and using the contours of the hill as paths, he created this special space.  He put creatures on the fence posts and before long, he says, “The space over ran itself.” Every day he walked the paths, very attentive to what was there, then the next day in the very space that had been empty, a creature would appear—branches with knarled ends or pine knots, stumps with interesting configurations, or rocks with faces.  Things began to show up on their own, and he swears they also moved around, sometimes falling off perches or appearing mysteriously in new places. He insists, “I swear, it became alive.”

I have no doubt this is a sacred space.  The last time I was there, I glanced toward a small metal sculpture of a dancing earth mother and was stunned by what I saw next to it.  In the same area was a knarled wooden creature that looked like a samurai warrior that had once appeared in a vision I had while meditating.  For a moment, all time and space was one, and my unconscious become conscious—which is what this space does to one.

In “The Space With No Name” there are around a thousand creatures, natural and ones created from several natural forms.  I asked Jerry, “Aren’t these composite creatures art?”

“I don’t want to claim it as art,” he said.  “It’s fine with me if people say, ‘You’re not a caretaker, you’re an artist.  It may be one and the same thing.  I was never a painter, poet, or composer.  I didn’t and don’t do Art, yet living so close to Art, I recognize and appreciate her presence, practice, and performance, and her Wildness, and She has surprised me with a gift of animistic sensibility in the “Space With No Name,” where I am in close communion with the living, breathing woods and hundreds of wild creatures, including rocks, roots, stumps, pine knots.  There are hawks, bugs and birds; trees, red fox, wild turkey, bob cat, bear, raccoons and possum; stealthy presence of coyotes.  Neither owner nor creator of this space, I am lucky to be its caretaker.

Being One With All That Is

His animism permeates Jerry’s whole life.  “This rock, in my space, that I sit on has an eternity I don’t have.  I wouldn’t take all this as seriously as I do if I weren’t animistic.  I’d say, ‘That’s just a tree stump.’  But it’s so much more.  One day, Jane was working on a sculpture, a mask.  I was walking around and saw something sticking out of a tree stump.  I was curious so I pulled it out—it looked like a mask.”  He pointed to the mask-like image sitting on the tree stump in front of us.  When we are in touch with our core of wildness and Oneness, these things often happen.

As I listened to Jerry, I realized his relationship to nature exemplifies Oneness.  We are all a part of Oneness—one with each other, nature, and the Universe, but we are not all conscious of it.  It is only when we become aware of it, that it enriches our lives. The wildness of Oneness is at the core of what Jerry experiences each day when he enters the “Space With No Name.”  He is truly blessed by that experience, and I am truly blessed to know him and his wife Jane who shares his sensibilities.

What part of yourself do you find in nature?

©2012 Georganne Spruce                                                           ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5

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