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AWAKENING TO OUR WISHES

Posted on September 15, 2021 | Leave a comment

“Stop the habit of wishful thinking and start the habit of thoughtful wishes.” Mary Martin

What are your most constant wishes? Have any of your wishes come true? How did that happen?

(Many thanks to Larry today for our topic. As usual, you all offered many good ideas, and I thank you. Next week, I will need a word starting with “X” and that will be a challenge finding a topic that I can actually write about, so I look forward to your ideas. Please leave them in Comment)

What do you wish for today? No doubt we all have one common wish: end the pandemic. While it has not stopped all our wishes from coming to fruition, it certainly has restricted many of them relating to travel, jobs, and socialization.

The large increase in patients reminds us that the wishful thinking that the virus won’t hit us so we don’t need to get the vaccine is not thoughtful wishing. Even when we wish, we need to be aware of reality and consequences, especially if there could be danger involved.

Our wishes often determine how we see things. When we are lonely for friends or a relationship, we may meet a person with whom we have much in common and to whom we are drawn. With time, we may find that our wishes and reality do match and this friendship will become long-term and positive for us, but we may also find that it is not what we hoped it would be.

We May Only See The Surface

When a relationship begins well and matches our wishes, it may be difficult to see beyond those wishes. What we have seen may only be the surface. As the differences and difficulties arise, we need to face the situation thoughtfully. Can these problems be fixed? Is this relationship likely to develop in a more positive way?

In these situations, we especially need to explore our “thoughtful wishes.” We need to think as well as feel. Are our wishes leading us to take more time to understand the other person’s desires and needs? Is the other person showing us respect and honoring our needs? As long as the answers to these questions are “yes” we are letting our wishes lead us in a wise direction.

If we discover that our needs are not being met, then we need to rethink what we are doing. We may be disappointed that the friendship is not what we had hoped, but we need to realistically evaluate to see if it is time for us to move on.

Thoughtful Wishes May Manifest

At times, our wishes may be able to help us make our dreams come true. When I was young, my greatest wish was to become a dancer. I could see it wouldn’t be easy since my early illness had kept me from the usual activity of childhood. But when my high school offered modern dance, I jumped at the chance to become strong and expressive. Over time I had to let go of wishful thinking and embrace thoughtful wishing that led to action.

By doing that, I was able to make the choices that allowed me to follow my “bliss” and take care of my health at the same time. My wishful thinking led me to thoughtful wishing and that led me into a life I loved, a life that no one early in my life would have thought I could achieve.

Wishes May Come True

We’ve all heard the expression, “Be careful what you wish for.” I always thought of it as a warning that made wishing rather dangerous. If you wished for the wrong thing, it could be a disaster. Now when I hear the phrase, I think it is saying, “Think about what you wish for and be sure it is what you want, because you are likely to get it.”

When we have had our wishes come true, becoming a doctor, an artist, a minister, or a parent, we are able to look at life more positively. We know that our wishes can come true, but we also know that requires thought and work.

May you all experience thoughtful wishes today.

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AWAKENING TO OUR CHOICES

Posted on November 7, 2012 | 3 comments

“If we really want to be full and generous in spirit, we have no choice but to trust at some level.” Rita Dove

When you make a choice, do you think about the consequences? Do you think about how your choices will impact those around you? What do you expect our country’s leaders to base their choices on?

The Balance of Power Has Shifted

Yesterday was a game-changing day for the United States. Barack Obama was re-elected as president, but who elected him is as significant as the victory itself. Something is shifting in this country. Ninety-three percent of African-American voters voted for him. Seventy-one percent of Hispanic voters voted for him, and fifty-five percent of women voted for Obama.

These groups of people, who during my lifetime have struggled for equality in the system, are finally stepping into their own power. Now the numbers are great enough to influence change in this country, and I think that’s a good thing. Their choices count in a way they never have before.

We are fortunate to live in a country where we have a system that allows us to choose the people who run the country. The choices we make on Election Day are significant, but the choices we make each day of our lives can also bring about huge changes. The diversity in this country will not go away. We have only one choice—learn to live with people who are different from us.

We Must Choose To Trust One Another

To be the spiritual beings we truly are, we must be willing to trust. To do that, we have to give up the need to be “right” all the time. Our need to be “right” keeps us attached to issues that need to be released. In Rasha’s Oneness, Oneness says “When you are able to let go of the need for ego validation on the issues that help define the history of this lifetime, you have taken the tentative first steps toward liberation from those patterns.” This is how we become unstuck.

Fear Beneath the Need To Be Right

Have you ever made a decision to prove you were right only to have it blow up in your face? When we let our egos run our lives, we often miss making the wisest choices. When we feel the urge to prove we are right, we need to look for the fear beneath that need and deal with that first. Releasing the fear frees us to act from a deeper place and calms the ego.

Likewise, our leaders need to stop worrying about whether the vote on an issue is won by the Republicans or the Democrats. This isn’t a football game. The only thing that matters is did they do what is best for the majority of the people? Will this decision help people to live better lives? Our leaders must choose to be trustworthy so that they can trust each other and the people can trust them. Too often, good ideas have been dropped because one side couldn’t stand to see the other “win” and blocked the law’s passage.

Act For the Highest Good Of All

The question then is not “Am I right? Did I win?” The only question we ever need to ask when making a decision is “Is this for the highest good of all?” If it isn’t, the decision isn’t the right one. Our decisions are energy flowing into the cosmic ocean to support its life or to pollute it. When we act out of love and generosity, our spiritual energy feeds the whole. We should expect no less from our leaders.

As Oneness says, “All the rules are changing now. Your world, as you have been schooled to understand it, has already ceased to be. The cellular structure of every life form on your planet has been altered. The resonant vibration of every living thing has been augmented. And the attunement of all consciousness to heightened levels has been achieved. As a race, the human population has opened itself to receive the gift of Grace. And even though precious few are aware of that shift, all are manifesting the result, in one form or another.” (Page 104) One result of this shift is that we are no longer in control. Resistance to the change taking place is pointless.

Those who are creating the positive changes in our society are the ones who are aware and are leading the way for the rest of us. Because of these changes, we need to make better choices in our own lives and insist that our leaders make better choices that will create a life that will uplift and enrich us all. We all deserve a life that is “full and generous in spirit.”