“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle
How do you feel about the political transition we are all in? Is there also a personal transition in your life? How are you dealing with the changes that need to take place?
It’s a gray, rainy day and I wish I had a cat. I used to have two cats and loved the way they snuggled with me in bed or when I sat on the couch reading. Their warmth and fuzziness were comforting and it was difficult when both had passed.
Dogs can be comforting too, but our current dog Susie is on her last legs, literally, and spends most of the day sleeping on her bed. There was a time too when she climbed onto a human bed to comfort my husband’s former wife when she was ill. But now it is difficult to see Susie slipping away although we all have to make the ultimate transition sooner or later.
In some sense we are all in transition at this moment in our country. Unfortunately, it isn’t looking like a smooth one. We all have experiences in life when we need to move on, but the change may feel difficult and uncomfortable. We may resist because it is disappointing to leave a good job, to lose the person we love, or see the candidate we supported lose an election. Accepting the discomfort of this situation allows us the opportunity to recover and move on.
Changes Are Reality
When we refuse to accept the inevitable, we harm ourselves and often others. President Trump’s refusal to concede ignores the value of a peaceful transition that benefits all citizens and himself. But his attitude indicates that he values himself only when he has power over others. To have one’s self-worth based on such an idea leads only to disaster.
At first, I was only angry when he refused to concede. Now that he has proceeded with trying to change the election results, I’ve realized he is even more insecure than I suspected. Despite his attempts to create difficulty for President-elect Biden, his aggressive behavior will only turn more people away from him. This is a democracy. The people have made a decision, and it’s time for Trump to move on.
There are always things we need to do to prepare for a transition when we are aware of it in advance. If the transition is the result of losing a loved one, we may shed tears, reach out to friends who have hopefully reached out to us, and give ourselves time to see what changes we need to make in order to move on.
We Can Learn From Losses
My maternal grandmother was the one person in my life who totally accepted me. She always expressed her love, accepted who and where I was, and supported me without judgement. Losing her was devastating and I grieved for a long time. But with time, I understood that her love would always be with me, that I truly was the good person she saw me to be, and after I grieved, I understood she would always be in my heart.
I’ve also made many transitions moving from place to place. Naturally, the moves required much preparation: physically packing, hiring a moving van, and finding a new place to live. Although difficult at times and not always a desired transition, something good invariably came into my life. I had a better paying job, made new and interesting friends, or lived in a healthier environment.
When we choose to stay stuck, we close our minds to new possibilities that may expand our lives. We shrink our possibilities. When we are forced into a transition that we do not desire, it is a rich time for reflection. What have we been doing wrong? What have we been doing right? Change presents an opportunity to learn, and we all need to be life-long learners.
Being president has made Trump feel more powerful than ever. Anything else, he considers a loss. Instead he needs to realize the opportunities that being an ex-president offer. Having served in this office gives him influence that persists, but his inability to move on, his desire to destroy what he can to make the transition difficult for Biden only diminishes his own power. Yet he cannot see that. How sad.
As Trump leaves office, I have only these words for him: the more you destroy our democracy, the more you are personally diminished. Leave office with the elegance of the king you wish you were.
© 2020 Georganne Spruce