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AWAKENING TO DEEPER FRIENDSHIPS

“Let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.”  Khalil Gibran

What is the most important thing you have to give others? Are your friends people who support the best or worst in you?  What do you share that makes a friendship meaningful?

There have been times in my life when I have had friends with whom I shared only superficial interests because they were not people who had an interest in anything deeper.  Any time I would start a conversation about the underlying meaning in a situation they would make a joke about it or ask me why I had to bring up that unpleasant stuff.  Not surprisingly, as time passed we drifted away from one another, looking for others who shared our values.

Connecting With Friends

However, for most of my life, I have often been blessed by having friends who share my values.  While we have fun and enjoy sharing superficial experiences, what makes our connection meaningful is that we have the need to go deeper, to understand the spiritual and psychological aspects of life.  We love to discuss books and movies and art.  We share the ups and downs of our lives.  We share a love of nature.  We listen deeply and speak from the heart.

Being a good friend requires the ability to give and receive.  What we need to give is often obvious.  A friend recovering from surgery needs us to run errands or cook food.  A friend going through a divorce needs us to listen and empathize with her feelings.  An elder needs help with yard work.  These are all tangible and important ways to help, but what is one of the greatest gifts we can give a friend?

Helping Others See the Good in Themselves

Disraeli once said, “The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own.”  As a teacher, my most joyous moments were when I could help a student see how talented he was, or accept that his ideas were insightful, or develop the confidence to tackle a difficult problem or assignment.  This kind of caring is a gift that lasts forever, for it changes the other person’s belief about their own capabilities.

Helping another person to see her own inner riches empowers that person.  This is a huge gift—to help another see they are more loving, beautiful, caring, strong, insightful, sensible than they realized.  Deep friendships are about opening doors as well as listening with love. Over the last few years as I wrote my spiritual memoir, the support of my friends has been invaluable.  When I doubted my ability to write, they would point out a passage that really moved them.  They inspired me with their own stories of overcoming fears and obstacles.  They cheered me when I found the courage to overcome my fears and move ahead.

The Gift of Being a Loving Mirror for Our Friends

But there is another side to friendship too.  In order to open a door or allow our friend to open that door to areas we may not find comfortable, requires trust.  When we share our deeper feelings through time and they are received with love and acceptance, not judgment, we learn to trust that friend wants what is best for us.  It is easier then to approach subjects that are not particularly comfortable.

At a point in my life when I was having many challenges in my work, I noticed that it seemed people were avoiding me.  Puzzled by this, I asked a close and trusted friend to please tell me what she thought was happening.  She began by reminding me that she loved me, then she gently explained that I was very reactive and defensive, and often snapped at people for what appeared to be no reason.  I could feel my face turn red with embarrassment.  Was that really true?

As I sat with this idea, I knew it was.  I was constantly being criticized at work, so I was primed to defend myself, and this had spilled over into my personal life.  I loved my friend even more for her courage in telling me the truth.  As a result, I returned to my meditation and monitored my behavior so that I stopped alienating people.

We all need mirrors in our lives—people who will reflect back to us our best qualities as well as those behaviors we prefer to ignore.  Most of the important changes we need to make are at deeper levels, and only friends with whom we share true relationships will be able to go there with us.  Going deeper with a friend is the greatest gift of friendship that we can give.

How have you gone deeper with a friend lately?

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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DANCING TO THE MYSTERY OF LIFE

“Dance is the essence of mystery.  Through dance we experience a dimension that the linear mind is not structured to perceive.  It may have been dance that enabled us to first conceive of experiences beyond our immediate physical experience, thereby creating the concept of spirituality, of ‘God.’” -Iris Stewart

Does the mystery of nature feed your spiritual life? Do you take the time to really experience the changing of the seasons?  What makes you come more alive when winter moves to spring?

Dancing With the Mysteries of Spring

The first blossom that appears in my yard is the Grape Hyacinth.  Clearly, no one planted them here because they are strewn all over the lawn just like the violets that appear about the same time.  It’s a mystery how their seeds got here—just one of the many mysteries that arrive with spring.

Yesterday, walking through the botanical gardens in the sunshine with a friend, I was so perfectly at peace in a joyful way, observing the many flowers that were blooming way ahead of schedule. Once again, nature has caught us off-guard, dancing in a delightful way.

It is this dance of energy that connects us all to joy.  No matter what is happening in our lives, no matter how challenging they are, it is important to take the time to dance this dance of life.  Open the windows and dance to the breeze.  Dance to the bird song in early morning.  Dance through a field of flowers or down a forest path.  Dance with your dog in the park and let it dance with the other dogs, which it is sure to do.  Allow yourself to feel that connection with the creativity of life.

Exploring the Mysteries

When I was a child growing up in Arkansas, my family hiked in the woods and mountains where we often came across caves.  Questions and images flooded my mind.  Did anyone ever live there? Who had been sheltered from rain there?  Who built a fire there?  What animals roamed through the cave or used it for shelter?

We also visited larger commercial caves with multiple rooms and water dripping from huge stalactites.  I had difficulty paying attention to the guides because I imagined myself exploring the cave for the first time, I envisioned ancient people dancing there, their silhouettes reflected upon the walls by the fire around which they danced.  I was hypnotized by the mystery of it all, and out of that mystery, I developed a curiosity to learn more and considered becoming an archeologist.

Awakening to the Mystery in the Dance

Many people are afraid of experiencing something that is different from what they are used to, but the unknown, the mysteries of life are there to lure us away from our complacency, to give us that nudge to answer the questions that arise in our lives.  Mysteries take us deeper to places we might never discover otherwise.  Had I never taken dance classes, I might never have come to understand the mind/body connection that stimulated my interest in further exploring psychology and spirituality.  Had I not pursued answers to questions that arose along this path, I might still see myself as a victim of my emotions and fear.  Instead, I explored the mysteries of the mind and found techniques that changed my life and empowered me.

If we dance with the mysteries of life, will we find all the answers?  Probably not.  But we will find the one answer that matters the most—the connection with Spirit—because it is the essence of all life and the greatest of the mysteries.  It is the energy of flowers blooming, caves forming, and people connecting.  When I look into the beautifully complicated center of a Columbine, I always ask, “Who thought of this design?”  This is like asking, “Why do people have five fingers, not six?” although some scientist probably knows that answer.

Live the Questions Now

One of my favorite books is Rainer Maria Rilke’s Letters To A Young Poet.  Some of his advice is valuable for us at all ages, especially when we are frustrated by not finding answers.  “…be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue.…the point is to live everything.  Live the questions now.  Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”  Or, as I would say, dance the questions.

What mysteries are you dancing with today?

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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AWAKENING TO THE DANCE OF TRUST

“…you can choose to become aware—to become truly conscious—and to see yourself as both the perpetrator and the target of your creation.  You are not a victim of your addictions, or your cravings, or your unbridled desires.  You are a fully responsible participant in your reaction to the choices presented.”  Oneness by Rasha, p. (319)

Do you trust yourself to make wise decisions? Do you trust those around you? What is it that allows you to be trustworthy or untrustworthy?

The Role of Trust in Our Lives

What is the real nature of trust?  Sometimes in my life I have trusted others too much, ignoring the obvious signs that this wasn’t wise; sometimes I’ve trusted too little.  Basically, I’ve lived my life based on the philosophy that I will trust other people until they prove to be untrustworthy.  That’s a very altruistic path and has often served me well, but not always.

When we expect the best from others, they often live up to our expectations.  When we expect the worse, they often meet those expectations too.  Our energy influences others more than we realize.  So what causes some people to go through life feeling paranoid and sure they may be the victim of another scam, while others expect life to treat them well most of the time?

Trusting Others is Based on Trusting Ourselves

I believe how much we trust life and others is based on how much we trust ourselves.  Do you think you make good choices most of the time?  If you do, I suspect that you have developed a way of making choices that is based on your connection to your spiritual core.  You have probably developed a decision-making process that produces positive results most of the time.

I’ve refined my process over the years, learning different strategies from experience and study.  I know that if I feel fearful, I need to clear my mind by releasing the fear so I can see what the issue really is.  Then I listen.  What is my intuition telling me?  I ask Spirit for guidance.  I look at my own value system.  Is this situation asking me to violate what I consider ethical?

Awakening to Higher Choices

Oneness says, “There are no definitive laws of right and wrong, beyond those you create and set for yourself.  There are higher choices or lesser choices, in terms of the predictable consequence of certain actions.” (Page 318) When I taught high school in New Mexico, I taught a drama class, and among my students was a young man who was a senior and failing.  His attendance had been poor, and he had completed only about half the required assignments.  His parents asked for a conference with me and the principal.  After I explained why he was failing, the principal said, “Now Ms. Spruce, what extra work can you give this young man so that he can pass?”

The parents of this student were members of the founding family of this small town, and I knew the principal felt pressured by this.  On the other hand, school had already ended for all the seniors.  Was it fair for me to create a means for this student to pass when I couldn’t make it available to other failing seniors?  Should I save a student who had repeatedly ignored opportunities to make up missing work and who had chosen, for no legitimate reason, not to attend many classes?  After thinking for a moment, I said, “No, there is nothing I can do.  He’s made his choice and he has to live with it.”  The principal’s face turned bright red.  He was furious.

I knew that, by saying “no,” I would not be invited back the next year.  Since it was my first year in that school district, I was on probation as are all teachers during their first year.  As a result, if a negative evaluation were sent to the state, I could lose my teaching license.  To cut my loses, I resigned, and fortunately found a position in another district.

Choosing the Spiritual Path

I have never, for a moment, regretted that decision.  I knew then and know now that I chose the higher path.  I could not offer this student a second chance unless I offered it to all my failing students.  Did I feel like a victim?  No, what I did was my choice.  Was I angry and upset about the situation? Of course, I thought it was outrageous.  But that’s life, isn’t it.  It can be difficult and feel unfair, but we always have the choice to do what we want to do with what it offers us.

That’s why this partnership with Spirit is so important.  Not every situation is something we can clearly accept or reject.  When it’s unclear what to do, can you trust yourself?  Can you trust your process?  Can you trust Spirit?  You feel you are a victim only when you don’t accept responsibility for your choices.  When you accept that responsibility, you are empowered and trustworthy and following a more conscious dance.

How have you trusted yourself lately in a difficult situation?  Please comment.

©2012 Georganne Spruce

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AWAKENING TO THE POWER OF PLEASANT THOUGHTS

“The pleasantest things in the world are pleasant thoughts and the great art of life is to have as many of them as possible.”   Montaigne

Do you often think pleasant thoughts?  What do you do to create them?  Does your feeling good depend on external events or internal ones?

A website from which I received a newsletter sent an over-the-top marketing piece on a book on abundance.  In the audio presentation, it made a statement that the advice the book had to offer was not new age, airy-fairy stuff.  I turned it off.

Over the years, I’ve explored many spiritual techniques.  Some worked for me; some didn’t.  Many would probably fall into the classification of new age stuff.  Over time, I’ve found that two approaches to making my life better always work—releasing my fear and expecting the best from all circumstances, one version of positive thinking.  I also believe in that airy-fairy idea that our thoughts create our reality.

Awakening to Pleasant Thoughts When We Have Challenges

Recently, I published my book Awakening to the Dance: A Journey to Wholeness in e-book form on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.  Today, I excitedly ordered the proof copy of the paperback edition.  Reaching this point with the paperback was not an easy task.  I definitely had to practice what I preach because obstacles constantly arose along the way, particularly in getting it formatted attractively.

So, I practiced my stuff.  Even after the first two technically astute people were unable to solve the formatting problems, I continued to affirm that the person who could solve the problems would appear.  I asked Spirit to help me accept that this was all in Divine Order.  I continued to network, letting people know what I needed.  After all, the first two people who tried to help had appeared unexpectedly and were well-qualified.  Then, of course, the right person showed up.

Clearly, something was wrong with the document, but when Brad Swift began working with it, I kept sending him positive energy and pleasant thoughts, believing that the problem would be solved. Now, Brad is a Life on Purpose coach and visionary writer who also maintained the attitude that we could solve these problems.  By converting my manuscript into a special software program, Scrivener, he was able to create the interior for my book that was exactly what I wanted.

Combining Positive Thinking With Action

Thinking only happy thoughts and not doing what needed to be done wouldn’t have solved the problem.  It took both.  Montaigne says that the great art of life is to have as many happy thoughts as possible.  It’s a matter of choice.  Once again, we can focus on what isn’t working or we can envision what could be better and take steps in that direction.  No art is created spontaneously.  The painter has to put brush and paint to the canvass.  The dancer has to put her  visions into movement.  The musician has to put notes on a staff in order to create a sonata.

Still, I am often amazed at how quickly what I need manifests when I trust that it will come to me.  Having pleasant thoughts requires us to trust.  As we take the steps to improve or expand our life, we also need to express gratitude for each good thing that happens.  I mean every little thing—no matter how small the event, your gratitude creates positive energy.  It only takes a moment to say “thank you” to a friend or to Spirit.  Let it become a conscious habit.  As that energy uplifts you, that energy radiates into the world around you drawing more good to you.

Having a Spiritual Back-up

This is why it is so important to develop a spiritual life that is integrated with our everyday lives. We are spiritual beings whether we choose to acknowledge it or not.  I know that much of my happiness comes from my connection with Spirit because it is a loving source to which I can always turn for guidance.  With this kind of back-up, it’s easy to think pleasant thoughts.

With spring appearing early all over the country, how can we not feel more positive?  Nature is awakening and blooming.  The migratory birds are back.  The sound of children playing outside echoes through the neighborhood.  Even the economy is doing better.  We could easily be singing a chorus of thank you’s every day.

What are your most pleasant thoughts today?

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

Related Articles:  How to Attract Positive Energy and Dispel Negative Energy, The Power of Positive Thinking

AWAKENING TO LOVE THE WORLD, Part 3, COOPERATION

“Problems can become opportunities when the right people come together.”  Robert Redford

Do you feel at ease working cooperatively with others?  Are you able to give up a little of your control in order share leadership? What if all nations worked together for the good of all?

I belong to a spiritual group and we’have been puzzled lately about how to handle a situation.  Our team leader is stepping down, and others who would make good leaders are too committed to take on more responsibilities.  Finally, one long-time member agreed to be the leader with the understanding that he needed “back-up.”  Three of us offered.  Out of this situation, we created an agreement that all four of us would work together as a team of leaders.  Since we are all devoted to the success of the group, this was an excellent solution.

Learning to Love Compromise

I’ve often been in situations where one person wanted to dominate, and they felt diminished by having to cooperate or compromise.  Having to share our power requires a calm ego, an open-mindedness, and an acceptance that we may not know it all.  In the news this week, Barbara Bush said, “I hate that people think compromise is a dirty word.  It’s not a dirty word.” I agree with her.  Compromise is one way of cooperating.  It requires looking at the options or differences and identifying the most important areas and how they can be implemented for the good of all.

Valuing Cooperative Skills

As a teacher in high school teaching English, I often used small group discussions or group projects to let students be creative and interactive with the literature.   However, I think that what they learned about mutual respect and cooperation was far more important than what they learned about the literature.  They learned to listen to each other, express a difference of opinion respectfully, and work together in order to create an excellent project that was a result of all their ideas and that fit the assignment requirements and expressed their point of view.

Releasing Resistance to Create a Cooperative Spirit

Don’t we all need those skills?  Don’t the leaders of all nations need those skills?  I realize it isn’t always easy to be cooperative when we feel things aren’t going in a direction we like.  Unless the decisions being made are destructive or unhealthy, it is always a good idea to ask, “Why am I resistant to this idea?”  Ego always has a reason for resisting.  At that moment, if we are willing to look at our own patterns, we may discover our resistance is very personal.

Maybe this situation mirrors a situation we experienced in childhood or with a spouse or friend.  By having the courage to honestly examine our thoughts and acknowledge the issue behind the resistance, we can separate our personal issues from the current discussion and release the resistance. This awakening frees us to act with a more cooperative spirit.

When have you had to put aside your preferences in order to solve a problem through compromise?

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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AWAKENING TO LOVE THE WORLD Part 2, DIVERSITY

“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”  Nelson Mandela

St. Louis, Senegal

What do you feel when you’re around people who are different from you?  Do you like meeting new people, especially people who offer new ideas or are from a culture different from yours?  Or does it make you uncomfortable to be exposed to new situations?

Diversity Is the Spice of Life

Last night, a group to which I belong met at the home of two lovely young people.  One was from India and the other from Germany.  The home was decorated with an eastern flair and reminded me of the 1970s, except this was authentic, not an imitation.  One art piece in particular attracted me. By asking about it, I learned that it represented aspects of both our host and hostess.

While the evening was a beautiful evening of meditation, reflection, and sharing, I was reminded of how rich my life has been because I have been exposed to so much diversity.  I have lived in every part of this country.  I’ve lived in New Orleans, a unique city, influenced by African, French, and Spanish cultures.  I’ve taught Hispanic and Native American teenagers in New Mexico.  I grew up in the South and lived in our nation’s capital for many years.  I taught in a university in the middle of the plains, an area mainly settled by Scandinavians and Germans.  Now, I live in western North Carolina where the Appalachian Mountains still preserve the culture of my Irish ancestors.

My life feels like a good gumbo or rich Irish stew.  Lots of interesting ingredients thrown together and simmered until the real juice of the experience rises to the top.  But it wasn’t always easy to be among people who are different from me.  I made mistakes like insisting that my Native American students look at me when I talked to them.  I didn’t know at first that they considered that disrespectful.  In New Orleans, my missteps at pronouncing unusual names were often entertaining.  Being a southerner, I was used to touching people when I talked to them. That definitely left the wrong impression at the first faculty party I attended in Nebraska.  But I learned and was often, though not always, able to adapt.

We Are All One

In 1994, I was chosen to study with a group of teachers on a Fulbright-Hays Travel Abroad Grant in Senegal and Ghana.  I was teaching multicultural literature at a private school in New Orleans.  In the fall, I hoped to be teaching gifted classes in the public schools, and this trip was the perfect preparation for that.  But it was more than that.  It was my dream to travel to Africa.  As a child, I had admired Albert Schweitzer’s work with the lepers in Africa and dreamed of going there.

We arrived in Senegal with the sun, and as I stepped onto African soil for the first time, I was flooded with the overwhelming sense that I was a citizen of the world, that all the boundaries we humans created were meaningless.  I did not feel like a foreigner in a foreign land as I had expected.  While much was different, much was similar.  People were generally very friendly.  They valued their families, loved to celebrate, and struggled like we all do.  Most of all, I was interested in the way their art and spiritual beliefs were integrated into their daily lives because I was working on that in my own life.  There, it was a way of life. The Africans became my teachers.

The Power of Being In Spiritual Alignment

I have often wondered why so many people are afraid of those who are different, and why we can’t break out of our polarity thinking.  Similarity creates a feeling of security, but it is only an illusion.  When we are in alignment with ourselves, differences in others don’t unbalance us.  If we are centered, we don’t allow fear to take hold of us.  When we encounter someone different we can choose to use it as an opportunity to learn about the other person.  The tragedy is that if we fear this different person, we destroy the opportunity to learn new ideas that may enrich our lives or lead us down a new and better path.

What You See Is What You Choose to See

Two weeks ago when I wrote “Awakening to Love the World, Part 1,” I quoted Wayne Dyer who said, “Loving people live in a loving world.  Hostile people live in a hostile world.  Same world.”  I know people who are afraid of Muslims.  When I think of Muslims, I don’t think about 9/11.  I think about praying, with tears streaming down my face, for world peace at the Holy City of Touba with African Muslims who were dedicated to living peacefully.  I think about the village of women and children who cheerfully tried to dig our truck out of a sand dune where it was trapped.  I remember the priestess of a water goddess who blessed our return journey.  What we look at determines what we see.

We are all more alike than we are different.  If we want peace in our lives and world, we have to let go of our need to be right, and appreciate that diversity adds some spice to life.  Being open to new ideas and people who are different expands our awareness of what it means to be human.  And that’s all good.

What do you love about other people who are different from you?  Please comment.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

Related Articles: Prayers for World Peace, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

AWAKENING TO LOVE THE WORLD, PART 1

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”  Rumi

How did you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Did you do something special for a loved one?  Did you perform a service for someone less fortunate than you?  Or did you feel depressed because you had no one to celebrate with?

It’s difficult sometimes not to get caught up in the mystique of Valentine’s Day or to want to ignore it completely because it is such a commercialized celebration, but the way we experience any holiday is a choice.  No one has to buy into the commercial version.  After all, this one is about love and that may take many forms.

Love Expressed Through Sharing

My Valentine’s Day was not romantic, but I felt showered with love.  The Universe has been good to me recently.  I will probably have my book Awakening to the Dance: A Journey to Wholeness on Amazon as an eBook by the end of this week.  Yesterday, I spent the day working with Joseph D’Agnese who did my formatting and taught me how to use the Kindle Reader on my computer so I can proof the book.

This fellow writer loves to help other writers and overflows with enthusiasm and encouragement. Especially at times when I doubted that I could really complete this project, his positive attitude spurred me on.  He has answered my endless questions, even taken time from his own writing to format my book.  His generosity creates the kind of energy that makes competition obsolete and proves how powerful sharing can be.

Love Expressed Through Following Our Passion

This has been a long journey for me—almost ten years since I began the book.  But I always knew it was meant to be because every step of the way, what I needed showed up.  That hasn’t always been true for the rest of my life, so what was different about this venture?  Most of the time, when I think about the book, I feel excited, I feel love for it and for all those in the story who have been part of my journey.  This positive, uplifting energy expands out into the world and draws to me what I need.

Not only have I drawn the classes and assistance I need, I have drawn people into my life who support my success and share with loving and positive energy.  They have helped me to see my life and the world in a positive light and to learn to focus on what is good.  Wayne Dyer once said, “Loving people live in a loving world.  Hostile people live in a hostile world.  Same world.”  What we focus on can make all the difference.

Choosing Our Thoughts

My life is very different than it was many years ago before I learned this most basic truth:  our thoughts create our emotions.  At that time in my life, I often felt overwhelmed with sadness and negative emotions.  Although I had learned to meditate and that did help to calm me, it wasn’t enough.  Learning to control my own mind was the key.  I learned techniques to do that by attending a Unity church and later studying Science of Mind principles.  As a result, I felt better about myself and became a more loving person.

When we understand that we can control what we think and feel, it is very empowering.  This is significant in learning to love ourselves and therefore others.  When we feel empowered, we are less likely to let fear control us. We feel more peaceful. We are less afraid to step into new situations and learn new things.  We are less afraid to love and share.  Our very presence creates loving and positive energy all around us, uplifting and helping others and expanding our world.

Romantic love is a beautiful illusion, but the real deal is loving our humanity and that requires us to go much deeper.  Over the next couple of weeks, I will explore Rumi’s quote to further identify some of the barriers to loving and ways to open ourselves to love.

How do you express your love in the world?  Please comment.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

Related Articles: Dr. Wayne Dyer–Emanating Love, What is Religious Science? 10 Core Concepts of Science of Mind

AWAKENING TO EMBRACE CHAOS

In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”   Deepak Chopra

What is your first response when life feels chaotic?  Are you at ease with chaos or do you resist it?  Or does chaos excite you with its possibilities for change.

Changes May Feel Chaotic

I’ve read that the vibration of the universe is speeding up; therefore, our sense of time is changing too.  No matter how fast I move, it seems that I can’t get as much done in a day as I used to.  I could blame it on my age, but I know that’s not the reason because I’m still very energetic.  But time is only one of the elements that contributes to my feeling that life is chaotic.

Life is changing on every level.  In the last year, I have made the choice to complete a book and have it published.  This will happen in the near future and I will soon be posting information about it on this blog.  This has required that I learn about aspects of online technology and marketing that do not come easily to me.  As a result, I feel I’ve been living in the midst of chaos and stressful change.

Change and Chaos May Contain Hidden Gifts

Change often seems overwhelming, and our fear of change may develop into a resistance to embrace new experiences and limit our possibility for growth.  A wonderful spiritual teacher of mine told her students to ask the universe for what we needed because the universe would send it to us.  She also warned us that it may not look like what we expect nor come when we want it.  So, what if exactly what we need is buried in this chaos and change?  If we are unwilling to look at what is there, we may not notice the treasure.

That’s the problem with chaos.  It’s so distracting.  It may also bring conflict into the situation.  Even if it’s good chaos, it may face us with too many choices.  How can we deal with all this?  Oneness recommends the following: “When your energies are at a low ebb and you are experiencing resistance, it is time to pull inward and not to escalate adversity by directly confronting those circumstances.” (Page 94) In the silence within we can consider the value of each choice we face and get in touch with our inner, higher selves.  When we look inward, we are more likely to make wiser choices.

Embracing Change Leads to Spiritual Growth

I’m sure that you, like me, have met people who resist any change.  They may be satisfied with their lives the way they are and don’t want to “rock the boat.”  They may also fear any unknown.  Chaos is disconcerting because it reminds us that having the ability to totally control our lives is an illusion.  Our fear about it often comes down to one major fear—that we will not know how to successfully deal with the change.  But the reality is that if we’re alive, we will at sometime experience adversity, and that’s not always bad, for it often brings us face to face with lessons we need to learn.

I really admire a friend of mine.  In the last two months, her husband has had to have surgery, then he injured his knee, then their dog died, then the day before they planned to leave on a trip their car developed a major problem.  Obviously, this has been a stressful time, but she has had a great attitude because she accepts each thing as it comes, looking for a positive solution, doing the best she can without letting anger and resistance create more problems.

“For to realize the full potential of this journey, it is necessary that you be willing to immerse yourself in the treacherous waters of change, knowing that the ability to swim like a champion, under all possible conditions, is within you.” Oneness, (Page 97)  My friend is definitely swimming like a champion.  If you don’t know how to swim, this is a good time to learn.

When we can embrace the possibilities that chaos offers and trust that the answers we need lie in our deeper selves, we no longer need to fear the chaos.  Without the fear and beyond ego, we will always be led to decisions that are for the highest good of all.

How do you manage the chaos in life?  Please share your specific comments.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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DANCING TO FREE OUR EMOTIONS

“Dance first. Think later.  It’s the natural order.”  Samuel Becket

Do you have difficulty sharing what you really feel?  Do you avoid expressing negative emotions?  Do you feel torn between being accepted and being authentic?

Physical Benefits of Dancing

Dance has often been at the core of my spiritual life.  Now, when I want to escape into joy or de-stress, I turn on music and dance around the house by myself.  It is a perfect way to lift my vibration and chase away the blues!  Dancing stimulates the release of endorphins which reduces pain and gives us a natural high in addition to increasing our metabolism and blood flow.  During the sixties and seventies when so many people I knew were doing drugs, I was never interested because dancing gave me a high in a natural way.

Emotional Benefits of Dancing

Not only is dance good for us physically, it can also affect us emotionally in very positive ways.  Over the years, I’ve met people who grew up in families where they were taught that any strong or passionate expression of emotion was not acceptable, especially if it was negative.  In other instances, people I know needed to hide who they really were or what they thought out of fear that the truth would damage their relationships.  Keeping our feelings hidden like this creates tension in the body and shrinks who we are, restricting our ability to express.

When we hide who we truly are and are fearful of expressing, we are denying our spiritual purpose.  We are all in this life for a reason, and understanding who we truly are reveals to us the purpose for this lifetime.  In terms of relationships, hiding behind what appears to be peacefulness also limits our relationships because what creates a more meaningful relationship is the ability to share what we truly feel and think.

Releasing Our Fear and Rigidity

There are many ways to release the fear of expressing emotions.  Therapy and spiritual disciplines may provide us with many tools.  Understanding why we are fearful is often helpful because understanding ourselves and our families allows us to let go of the need to protect ourselves.  Finding friends who accept our passionate expression reinforces the feeling that we are truly loved for being genuine.

But dance can be a valuable tool in this process.  Rigidity of body or mind is unhealthy for the spirit as well as the body, but movement stimulates the whole being to express. By using our bodies to release the mind, we become more aware of the mind/body connection and begin to feel a wholeness.  If we allow ourselves to feel the joy of the movement, we can connect to our spirit and the Spirit that connects us all.

The Wave

One of the most beautiful ways to explore the way that dance can aid our growth is in connecting with our spiritual selves through Gabrielle Roth’s 5Rhythms Healing Meditation known as The Wave.  There are groups around the country who meet to experience this together, but if you are not ready to move in a group, there are videos you can follow on your own.  Still, the energy of a group can be exhilarating.  Seeing others moving without inhibition often gives us the courage to risk a little more.

Connecting Body and Mind to Open

Dancing with music is not always necessary.  Moving in silence allows us to penetrate the silence and the barrier of our own bodies.  In that moment, the body connects to the mind, and we visit that place where body and mind are One.  If we allow ourselves to move and feel whatever comes up, we empower ourselves.  How can we possibly express what we feel if we can’t feel it?  So that is the first step, to feel in the body and then the emotions. Then we must be willing to take that information and use it to transform ourselves into a person who is not afraid to express those thoughts and feelings.  It takes commitment because it is not usually a brief process.

When we give ourselves to the dance, we stop thinking.  Fear, shyness, judgments drop away and we are just in the moment—mind, body, emotions and soul are all One.  In that moment, whatever we feel is just fine, and if we can’t express our feelings verbally, we can dance them. By dancing them, we may one day learn to verbalize them as well.

How often do you dance freely and let go of stress?  Does movement help you release the fear you feel about expressing yourself verbally?  Please comment and share your specific comments about this topic.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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DANCING FROM OUR CENTERS

People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself.  But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates.”  Thomas Szasz

Who is running your life?  Is it you, deep from your center?  Or is it your family, employer or the mentality of society herding you into the role they want you to play?

The last time I visited the Biltmore Estate and met the Tina Turner Chickens, I also observed a sheep dog herding sheep.  I had seen this on the nature channel, but I’d never seen it in person.  As the dog herded the sheep together, they were so close they were touching, moving like one being.  After herding them to a particular area, he left, but the sheep remained sandwiched together as if they were afraid to each step out into their own areas.

 The Dangers of Conformity

I immediately thought of people and conformity.  How often do we allow something outside of ourselves to limit our capacity to be who we really are?  Conformity isn’t all bad.  It’s only negative if it forces us to be someone we are not or causes us to hurt others in order to be accepted.  The McCarthy trials of the 1950’s are a good example.  Neighbors reported neighbors for being communists and whether it was true or not was irrelevant.  People lost their reputations and employment by merely being accused.

Inner Self and Ego

 I don’t know exactly what Thomas Szasz intended when he made the statement I quoted today.  But I suspect he was referring to the ego/personality level of who we are, for the spiritual level that is deeper is something we find only when we let go of ego and go deeper.  It is eternal.  We do not have to create it.  But we do create the person we are in this lifetime based on the choices we make and the way we think.

Creating Our Personalities Based on Our Eternal Selves

If we are in touch with our eternal being, the choices we make from that place, rather than from external influences, tend to be wiser.  In modern dance, the pelvic area of the body is the center of our body and this core must be strong in order for the dancer to perform the off balance tilts, falls and swings that are unique to modern.  Without a strong core, the dancer flounders.

If we make choices from that loving center within us that is our core, our choices will have integrity and compassion, and will enhance our lives and the lives of others.  That deeper self is the basis of our personality, but making the right choices can lead us to an integration of the two.  When we dance from our center, we are One.  But if we always allow others to dictate how we think and act, we are being unfaithful to ourselves.  We are letting life happen to us rather than creating the life we want.

If we spend our whole lives hiding behind the temporary high of buying things or being entwined with a dysfunctional family’s dictates or constantly searching for a quick fix to happiness, we will never find who we truly are.  We will not discover that by following someone else’s lead in the dance of life.

Lead Yourself in the Dance

When you create yourself, you become the dancer and the leader.  You look at each opportunity in life and decide if it contributes to who you are or want to be.  You find the courage to step away from the flock and follow your own path.  You love yourself enough to take charge of your own life.  If you have not found yourself yet, perhaps you are not looking deep enough.  Perhaps you have betrayed who you are in order to keep peace and have security.

Fear always surfaces when we try to break an existing pattern.  It’s then we have to turn to faith. “When you have come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing one of two things will happen:  there will be something to stand on or you will be taught to fly.”  These words have comforted me more often than I like to admit.  Have faith and trust yourself to become who you really are.  You are your greatest creation!

What challenges have you faced in becoming who you really are?  What helped you take the risk?  Please comment.

© 2012 Georganne Spruce

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