“People need to rediscover the ability to find comfort amidst discomfort. It is only while enduring discomfort that we find solutions.” Hanno Langenhoven
Have you found any comfort during this discomforting time? How did you look for it? What form did it take?
Most of us are definitely looking for comfort during this crazy, scary time. The things that may usually have made us feel good like going to the movies, seeing a play, or shopping downtown in the crowds aren’t possible in many places. In other ways, they aren’t wise things to do even if they are still possible.
Creating New Events
I definitely had to adjust my birthday celebration this week to be safe during the pandemic. No eating out at an elegant restaurant with friends or attending some kind of entertainment event. Even hiking in the woods was taken off the list because of problems with my hip joint. Instead my husband and I drove up to Mt. Mitchell to see the fall leaves at many stages on the mountains. Near the top, the leaves had already dropped, leaving only the dark green fir.
We took a little walk outside in the sun at the top of the mountain with a light cool breeze blowing. There were no tables around and too many people so we ate lunch in the car, enjoying chicken salad, vegetable salad, and cookies. Simple and delicious. After coming down the mountain, we picked up gluten free crab cakes for dinner.
My husband cooked the meal and did the dishes. Then we watched two episodes of “Everwood” on Amazon Prime, laughing about how crazy the two main characters are who are doctors. When we crawled into bed, I felt flooded with love for my dear partner. Just being with him had made it the best birthday ever.
Creating Comfort From Discomfort
We had just done simple things during the day that gave us pleasure. It’s true of course that we have had to rediscover what gives us pleasure. We’ve also had to adjust what we consider comfortable in relation to the virus. In other words, “to find comfort amidst discomfort.”
We don’t like living with limitations but they push us to be more creative. I have a friend who is an artist and is taking an online painting class rather than the face-to-face class she usually takes. The paintings she is creating are amazing and beautiful! Every day when I go on Facebook she has posted another beauty. Isolation has certainly not restricted her creativity.
Artist: Carol Czeczot – www.blackmountainartist.com
In order to find the comfort hiding beneath the limitations, we may have to decide to find pleasure in the simple things of life that we often overlook. When I was single and living alone, I often was not with friends on Saturday nights. Many of my friends were married and spending Saturday with their mates or family.
Without family nearby, I had to comfort myself. When I felt lonely, I would take a hot shower, fix a hot cup of tea or cocoa, put on my pajamas and crawl in bed with a good book. Pampering myself was nurturing and a way to love myself.
Circumstances force us to look beyond the obvious and become more creative with solutions to problems that have had us stuck in one frame of mind. Being open to unexpected and unusual possibilities may well be the key to turning our discomforts into satisfying outcomes.
© 2020 Georganne Spruce